Picture this, in split seconds; he snaps
into a man you never knew as the wall of familiarity crumble. Looking into his
eyes send unrestrained fear, down your spine. He raises his arm and you know it’s
going to hurt. Slap after slap came, then punch, kicking and a devilish litany
of curses is being rained down on you. Your mind is too ripped apart to wonder;
wonder if this was the man you loved, that made promises, promises of unending
happiness, of sticking with you for better or for worse, you feel less human
because the human you were have been torn apart by torture and violent attacks
from the only man you felt you were safest with. You have lost, lost because
you know that, this is just the beginning. I tell most sincerely, many women go
through this ordeal many mornings and nights of their lives. They feel trapped
by the mere feeling of that metal ring on their finger.
Domestic violence is now as common as relationship
itself and is as frequent as the ladies flash their engagement rings on the social
media. The black and blue faces are just too much on the social media with racy
reactions coming from commentators, sometimes social media brawls ensuing on
who was wrong or right. But you, my reader, must recognize the possibility of
you being in that shoe so that you can make a stand either for or against it
today through actions that will guarantee much desired outcome.
HOW?
I
could hear this question popping up on your head from this end, but I will try
my best to satisfy your curiosity.
The
first step to being on the safe side is to build your self esteem. Merriam-Webstar defined Self Esteem as a
feeling of satisfaction that someone has in himself or herself and his or her
own abilities. Wikipedia took a step forward in their definition by saying that
“self-esteem reflects a person’s overall evaluation of his or her own worth. It
is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self. Simply put, you define the mirror that
reflects what people and your spouse see in you. What woman have you grown to
be? One that believes that everything good she can get must come from a man. One
that struggles with her under graduate education with a carefree mindset that
everything ends in the house of a man. One that sees relationship with a man as
a vital sign of fulfillment and therefore whines and cries when it shows the
slightest sign of falling out of place. One that has lost sight of her personal
life goal, succumbing to the trend of “others are getting married, what am i waiting
for?” One that won’t say yes until the
size of the pocket is determined. All these mindsets culminate to forming destructive
relationships and in turn a resultant abuse and depression. A study conducted
in South Africa reported that women who work for themselves and their families
are more satisfied with their homes and spouses.
According
to Branden, 1969, there are three key components of self esteem;
- · Self-esteem is an essential human need that is vital for survival and normal, healthy development.
- · Self-esteem arises automatically from within based on a person’s beliefs and consciousness.
- · Self-esteem occurs in conjunction with a person’s thoughts, behaviors, feelings, and actions.
When
your self-esteem is taken care of, naturally it becomes a grievous sacrilege
for a man to lay his finger on you because of the immeasurable self-love that
comes with high self-esteem. On the average, most men know better than to lay a
finger on a woman that is purpose-driven, why?, confrontation. Men hate public
confrontation and by intuition know that a self reliant woman knows her way
around and will stop at nothing to address such dastardly act. So to say, if
they have decided to stick with you, by extension they have decided to treat
any misbehavior coming from you with the highest civility. To be continued on Thursday.
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