Disappointment in relationships can be traumatising. When i went for clinical posting somewhere in Anambra, i encountered a woman who became "mentally challenged" because she was heartbroken when a man he trusted so much disappointed her. You never can tell how deep you could go in the hole of depression when your heart is smashed just because you trusted so much to love. Here are three ways you can pull yourself out of the mess of heartbreak before its too late!
1. Adjust the spotlight: The reason why you still feel rotten and depressed is because you are still in love but probably angry. Love dims the dark side and places the spotlight on the positive sides of your partner. "Love is blind" they say. If you allow this to remain, you'd stay heartbroken for long. Here's the trick, you can actually angle your thoughts to more positive realities of life. You can start by assessing the relationship from a new light. Discover the flaws of the lost relationship, see things for what they are and encourage yourself to move on by blocking every thought that will lead you back to the past.
2. Stay out of the way: probably you might have confronted your partner to put things straight but got fat attitude in return, that's okay. You must have expected that but let your expectation lead you to the acceptance of what happened. Then, stay out of the way by eliminating anything that would remind you of that which has ceased to be, like social media(block his or her account if you must, sometimes they put up romantic pictures of their new catch just to tease you and you can't handle that yet), personal picture collections of you together and even places that shout adorable moments shared. There will come a time when you will feel at peace with everything. Then you can go back living your sweet life the way its meant to be.
1. Adjust the spotlight: The reason why you still feel rotten and depressed is because you are still in love but probably angry. Love dims the dark side and places the spotlight on the positive sides of your partner. "Love is blind" they say. If you allow this to remain, you'd stay heartbroken for long. Here's the trick, you can actually angle your thoughts to more positive realities of life. You can start by assessing the relationship from a new light. Discover the flaws of the lost relationship, see things for what they are and encourage yourself to move on by blocking every thought that will lead you back to the past.
2. Stay out of the way: probably you might have confronted your partner to put things straight but got fat attitude in return, that's okay. You must have expected that but let your expectation lead you to the acceptance of what happened. Then, stay out of the way by eliminating anything that would remind you of that which has ceased to be, like social media(block his or her account if you must, sometimes they put up romantic pictures of their new catch just to tease you and you can't handle that yet), personal picture collections of you together and even places that shout adorable moments shared. There will come a time when you will feel at peace with everything. Then you can go back living your sweet life the way its meant to be.
3. Open your door and windows, they are the passage way for sunlight: bouts of depression and heartbreak are usually characterised by avoiding contact with people. You shut the world out and drain alone. You cry for weeks and stay on bed day and night. Now, how do you expect the beautiful sunlight to find you when you recoil in darkness. Open the door and windows. You need your friends now more than ever. Hang out with them, do things that interest you. At first you might feel like you are being pushed but with little time, you will blend in the vibe. Avoid those disheartening thoughts and stay on the happy lane!
N:B Time heals all things even heartbreak and remember someone is dying to have what someone else has failed to appreciate. Remain positive, forgiveness is the first ever step to healing heartbreak!
N:B Time heals all things even heartbreak and remember someone is dying to have what someone else has failed to appreciate. Remain positive, forgiveness is the first ever step to healing heartbreak!
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